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Colleen M. Story:
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It's been a pleasure
to host authors, writers, and bloggers this year. I'm never sure what
they'll share in the Humor & Inspiration Features, but I've been
impressed with the depth, insight, and relatablity of their posts.
Colleen M. Story fits right in with the high-quality artists who have graced
the Humor & Inspiration
stage in the past few months. Colleen is a full-time writer and editor with a passion for health and wellness, animals of all shapes and sizes, and the country life. She mentors, shares, uplifts, and encourages other writers. (FYI last year, I was honored to be featured on her Writing and Wellness website.)
Today Colleen poses an interesting question about authors and their colorful personalities (or lack thereof). Be ready for some deep thoughts (and a conscience twinge or two) as she explores this topic.
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Are Writers with
Personality an Endangered Species?
I’ve admired authors for a long time. When meeting some of
my heroes at conferences and writing events, I’ve felt the awe that a groupie
likely feels for a rock band.
Imagine my surprise, then, when I heard that to a common,
everyday person (i.e., not a writer), authors aren’t really all that exciting.
In fact, according to her, they don’t have much personality at all.
What the Common
Person Thinks of Writers
As a full-time freelance writer, I spend most of my days
slaving away over a computer in my home office, so one of my favorite things to
do in my off hours is to get out, often to a café for lunch or dinner and some
nice hot coffee. I have a couple favorite locations I frequent, and the staff
starts to recognize me after awhile.
So when I walked into one of these locations several months
ago, it wasn’t a surprise to be greeted by a waitress like I was an old pal.
We’ll call her “Grace” for fun, because she is very graceful. A tiny person not
only in stature but figure, she wears her long hair in a perfectly wound braid,
has small, defined, features, and looks like someone who does yoga every
morning to perfect her already elegant posture.
Grace moves from one table to the next like she’s floating,
and always has the best of manners. She says things like, “And what looks good
today?” when asking for your order, and “great choice” whatever you choose.
When she checks up on you later, she doesn’t ask how the meal is, but says,
“And are we loving dinner tonight?” or “Is that just tasting wonderful today?”
If you need anything more she’ll rush to get it, and tell you things like, “Oh
absolutely, happy to do it.”
I’ve grown fond of Grace and have exchanged short
conversations with her. I’ve learned that one of the young male waiters is her
son, and that she actually doesn’t do yoga, but that she probably should, in
her opinion, to enjoy the health benefits. I usually don’t get in too many
questions, though, before she’s off and rushing to be sure all her tables are
well taken care of.
So it was a rare treat one day when she stopped long enough
to ask me what it was I was working on. She mentioned that others came into the
café with computers, but that rarely did they seem to focus as much as I
usually did. If I didn’t mind, sharing, of course.
I told her I was a writer.
Now, understand—usually when I say that people raise their
eyebrows and act impressed or at least intrigued, and follow up with the usual
question of, “What do you write?” So I was ready for that.
Not Grace.
She said, “Oh really? That’s surprising. I never thought
writers had all that much personality.”
We’ve All Known
“Those” Kind of Writers
I have to admit, I was taken aback by her statement. My
first reaction was to be glad that the way she said it, it seemed she believed
I did have a personality, so
obviously I was the exception to most writers, which I supposed was a good
thing.
My second reaction was to laugh out loud. Admit it. We’ve
all been around those authors who are so wrapped up in themselves that even
other writers don’t enjoy being around them.
I’ll never forget the first writer’s conference I ever
attended. In one class the instructor was trying to teach us all something—I
can’t remember now what—but this one writer/attendee kept getting up to ask
questions throughout, questions that were all about him and had nothing to do
with the class. In the end he was still talking
about how horrible publishers were and how he couldn’t get anyone to look at
his manuscript and what was the matter with all of them and on and on until
finally the class ended.
Of course, after that, he had to go up front and continue to
badger the instructor about his problems with “publishers.”
I met some great people at that conference, too, and I’ve
continued to meet some very nice authors over the years. But I have to say I’ve
met just as many that weren’t so great.
Let Me Tell You All
About ME
I’ve started conversations with writers only to be roped
into listening about every wonderful thing they ever wrote, including all their
awards and publications and oh, but wait, there’s more!, until I had to
physically walk away to stop the madness.
I’ve talked with authors who were so painfully wrapped up in
their own heads that they came off as wanting nothing to do with any sort of
conversation with anyone. Others have failed to take any interest whatsoever
until I started asking them about themselves, after which they were happy to
monopolize my time for the rest of the night.
Above it all are those huge authors I’ve met at signings. These
are beacons of wonderfulness, warm and caring people that genuinely love to
connect with those who read their books.
They’re the ones that by taking a genuine interest in their fans for
only a few spare minutes manage to leave them feeling as if they’ve just been
sprinkled with magic author dust, a rare element known to induce spontaneous
smiling.
But then there are other well-known individuals who have
failed to even look me in the eye while signing, or those who busied themselves
in conversations with buddies at the table while scratching up my book and then
handing it back as if I should be grateful they took the 10 seconds.
Was Grace right? Do most authors simply lack personality?
Are they so wrapped up in themselves that they fail to see the effect they have
on others, especially on—gasp—their fans?
I’m Looking for
Writers with Personality
Grace is still serving at the local café. We chat now and
then, though the subject of writers and their personalities never came up again.
She doesn’t ask. I don’t tell. I work away, and she lets me work, and we occupy
our own worlds except for the few spare moments when she’s taking my order.
But I’ll never forget her comment. Whenever I’m at a writing
event, I tell myself to leave my ego at the door, and remember what my father
always said—that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. I do my best to
keep my writing ambitions on the back burner (even though I know we’re supposed
to NETWORK!), and to value my interactions as more about being human and less
about furthering my career.
I continue to meet other writers that fit Grace’s
description. More than I’d like to admit, actually. But that makes those few
gems even more special, the ones that are writers but are still people, too.
Writers with personalities. Maybe they really are rare in
today’s world.
Are you one of them?
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Colleen M. Story writes
imaginative fiction, and has been a full-time writer, editor, and ghostwriter
for nearly 20 years. Her literary novel, Loreena’s
Gift, was released in April 2016 by Dzanc Books. Her recent fantasy novel, Rise of the Sidenah, was a North
American Book Awards winner, and was named Official Selection, young adult, in
the 2015 New Apple Books Awards.
She maintains a robust inspirational blog for writers and
other creatives at Writing and
Wellness, with her own personal website at colleenmstory.com. Follow her on Twitter
@colleen_m_story.
Loreena’s
Gift: A blind girl’s terrifying “gift” allows her
to regain her eyesight—but only as she ferries the recently deceased into the
afterlife.
Rise of the Sidenah is a magical fantasy about a young
sculptress forbidden from practicing her art, until a powerful man offers her
an opportunity she can’t refuse. Available at Amazon.
Colleen's a prime example of a writer with personality! And totally worth stalking online (seriously, I just saw the cutest baby goats on the planet!). Just for the record, I have issues with writers who use their occupation as a reason to be antisocial. My experience? Because of who I am--more in teacher mode than writer mode most days--no one has ever greeted my writer status with scorn. Indifference, yes. Curiosity, naturally. And excitement?Absolutely. But never scorn. Colleen and I would love to hear about your experience with writers. Leave a comment below!
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